Friday, December 14, 2007

Given a chance...

to live my life all over again, would you do anything different? Is'nt this the kind of facetious question that interviewers ask celebrities all the time? To which the celebrity replies 'Oh! I would'nt change a thing! I just love things the way they are!!' (all the court cases and boyfriend/girlfriend problems not withstanding.)

Some people have kindly delurked and hastened to lift my sagging spirits by leaving a comment or two on my last post. To my surprise, all of them are footloose and fancy free people who seem to be single and loving it. And all of them have said something to the effect that they enjoy my writing. Thanks for that. And have said that through me they are beginning to realise how chaotic/difficult a marriage, career and a kid can be.

So that brings me back to where I started from. I met hubby at the tender age of 18 and was married to him at 22. Given a chance to live my life all over again, would I do things differently?

The answer is a simple but resounding No. I love my life the way it is right now. I love being married and I love being a mother with all the attendant complications that it brings. So for all the single people out there who are trying to decide whether to take the plunge or not, here are

My Top Reasons why someone should get married:

1. If lucky, you will get the best friend that you have ever had in your spouse. The kind of relationship which starts with passion and fireworks and grows and matures through the years like fine wine, till it touches everyone who comes in contact with its warmth.

2. You get an extended family through the marriage. A family that you may love at times and hate at others but who will enrich your life and broaden your horizons (and test the limits of your patience!;-))

3. The family that you create through the marriage, namely, your children. From being mere dreams in your heart, you get to see them take shape and grow into such wonderful human beings. I think the joy of sharing your child's special moments with your spouse has to easily be the best and finest moments of life.

Anyway, the disclaimer to the points above is that the above are true only if you are smart enough or lucky enough to find yourself that perfect guy or gal. I was. And am eternally thankful for that!

8 comments:

rags said...

single yes....loving it.err no....

sure marriage brings lots of joys with it...but as you said, thats only if you find the right partner...else u r better off being single....it is this fear/uncertainity that creates some aversion towards marriage.

btw, bangalore-mom...whats thy name?

BangaloreMom said...

Hi Rags

I would just enjoy the wild, single life if I were you :). There will come a time for responsibilities and loving them too. And finding the right partner is one thing, making the chosen partner right for you is another way, is'nt it?

Regarding my name, I'd prefer to be this slightly mysterious, enigmatic face in the anonymous. This gives a hint of mystery to my otherwise quite boring and mundane life in which I have absolutely no secrets to call my own!! So please give me this, and let it be.:)

BangaloreMom said...

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noon said...

Hi BM
I read the last two posts. Enjoyed reading them. You should write often! And now I am able to open the comments section - thanks.
And nice to know you are happy where you are...don't know much about your kid/s? Should check out your old posts. Will visit you more often from now on - now that I know you exist! :)
And I completely agree with all your points...Only thing - I don't think there is a perfect guy. You learn to live with the other person's imperfections that's all..(in a good way I mean).

noon said...

Where are you? You shd post more! :)
No contact id - so posted here!

Aryan said...

Happy New Year..Bangalore Mom
Update more
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Swati said...

Nice post ! I agree with all the reasons..marriage makes you enter into another world ! BTW ..I am a Bangalore mom too.

karmickids said...

True, I would change nothing of my life too. Perhaps maybe some people I am forced to be around constantly. And marriage is the best thing possible to happen. If its with the right person.